This is true on so many levels: anger and frustration shape you so negatively in life – it leads to tempered and irrational decisions.

The problem with anger is that it really only harms you; you’re manifesting the interpretation of that event negatively, and you are letting it significantly affect you – try and take a positive side and learn from the event.

I’m not necessarily talking about the bigger events here, such as fatalities or major family issues – I have no right to tell you how to react.

I’m talking more about the petty things in life like getting cut off in traffic, your train being late, or getting annoyed at your ex because you heard from her friend’s brother’s mate that she hooked up with 2 guys already – what’s the point in letting these events affect you?

First off, more often than not you interpret them negatively; the lady who cut you off may have been rushing her kid to the hospital, the train may have been late due to an old lady collapsing, and your ex’s friends brother’s mate just may like overexaggerating and stirring stuff up… A lot of the time we interpret them in a negative way because subconsciously we want to be angry at the person/event.

Now let’s say you were right about your interpretations – so what? What will being angry and letting it affect you do? When I miss a train I no longer get annoyed, I just think of the worst thing that could happen – I am late for work, my boss publicly rips into me and I have to work an extra 30 mins. Being angry in this scenario won’t fix anything… Will being angry stop my boss from ripping into me? Hell no. Sure, I can learn from my mistake and get to the station earlier, but no way will I let it affect my mood anymore.

Don’t focus your energy on negative past events; use it to be happy, live life to the fullest, and becoming a better version of yourself every day.

-Mike

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