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The Best Lesson To Learn From Matty Fusaro

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Matty Fusaro is one of my inspirations.


Since I started watching the Youtube scene, Matty Fusaro has been one of the guys that has stood out from the rest.


Matty has been in the fitness influencer industry for a long time, and he knows his stuff… 


He has around 900 fitness videos on a range of things, such as workout videos, nutritional/cooking guides, stretching and detailed anatomy videos.


In fact, go check him out if you haven’t already here – do it now. You will thank me later.


What I want to talk about in this article is more about what I have personally gained from Matty Fusaro, and its slightly different to what you might expect…




Anyone can talk about fitness.


Anyone can talk about working out.


Anyone can talk about nutrition.


But the thing that really Matty really does to inspire me is how he approaches scenarios.


Matty carries a very composed attitude – you can see that he is mentally settled.


This allows him to handle tough situations well, without losing control of his emotions and acting irrationally.


This is such a powerful tool which I strive to aim towards. Having the ability to be aware of your thoughts and actions, in my opinion, are the 2 most powerful elements to carry. It allows you to process your thoughts well, almost as if you’re conversing with someone else, which in turn helps you stay level-headed and aware.


What I have started doing recently to help with this mental awareness is meditating.


As soon as I wake up I sit upright in my bed, and for 15 minutes I just relax and focus on breathing in and out.


When my mind wanders, which is does a lot, I just bring it back on track and focus on my breathing.


Sometimes I think about my ideal day I would like to have; being composed and calm in situations faced, and handling them in a relaxed and rational manner.


Controlling your emotions is one of the most powerful tools you can have.


Matty taught me this. Let him inspire you too.



Purpose 101: What Is Your Purpose?


I cannot tell you how to live your life.


In fact, it would be completely naive, self-centred, and egotistic if I said there is a right or wrong way to live life.


Unfortunately, this was me a year ago…


I used to think that my life was the way you should be living life: I was living in central London, had a solid corporate job,  and my body was on point – ‘who would not want to live my life!?’


A year down the line my mentality completely changed…


When I took a step back and assessed my thoughts and actions I became shocked at how single-minded and obnoxious I was:


The first time I recall thinking ‘wow, what am I actually thinking?’ was when I was speaking to my friend about my very smart sister who decided to become a trainee teacher; I was telling him how she is too smart to be a teacher…


I forgot exactly what my friend’s response was but it made me heavily re-evaluate that thought; how on earth can I say that someone is too smart to be a teacher?


Teachers change lives.


Teachers literally shape the future world.


Teachers inspire kids to go out and become doctors, scientists, and astronauts.


Teachers are adding more value to the world than I definitely was.


How could I say that the right way to live was to not be a teacher?


This initial thought made me think deeply about my other fundamental thoughts on what it meant to live a truly fulfilling life.


Once again, I would like to stress that I cannot tell you exactly how to live your life (for the above reasons). That being said, over my journey I have identified a few factors which I feel have helped me develop a more positive and internally satisfying approach to life; hopefully, this may help add some perspective and insight to how you see your life.


I have split this into 3 main areas: self-worth, contribution, and mentality.


Personally, I feel that all of these 3 areas need to be addressed for all round vitality; they all interconnect, affect each other, and play an important role in ensuring that you feel motivated, happy and at peace with yourself.


Without further ado, let’s get into it!


Why do you wake up in the morning?



I have found that we all want to feel some sort of value; a reason to get out of bed and go out and live life – this is where self-worth and contribution come into play.




Self-worth is the process of adding value and progressing through your personal life. This tends to be most often found in the form of a career or learning and developing new skills.


Have you ever been in disbelief at how relentless Cristiano Ronaldo and LeBron James are? At how they are able to train consistently and religiously for years and years on end?


I believe this is largely fuelled by an inner desire to strive to become better version of themselves each and every day; they are driven by self-worth.


For most of us this level of commitment is a bit on the extreme end. That being said, I do feel we desire to better ourselves on a daily basis in order to help us feel that core feeling of self-value.


In my life I strive to achieve my self-worth through growing InvincibleMentality, fitness, and my corporate career.


In my opinion, fitness is one of the purest forms of achieving self-worth; actively becoming a fitter, stronger and healthier version of yourself gives you an incredible feeling of empowerment.


If it were not for fitness and working on transforming my body back at 14 I genuinely do not believe I would possess the levels of ambition and motivation which led to me doing well in school and striving to achieve success in both my career and other personal projects.


*If you are looking to get into fitness, be sure to check out my Ultimate Guide To Getting And Staying Lean*.


In terms of career, the drive often comes from feeling appreciated and valued by peers, achieving promotions, and gaining more responsibility as you progress in the field. In terms of entrepreneurship (InvincibleMentality for myself) the self-worth derives from growth and the mark you are making on the world.


A common trait with achieving self-worth is that it very much associated with progression and self-improvement; in all of the above examples the self-worth derived from some sort of growth.


Self-worth can also come from developing your hard and soft-skills; for example, you can learn a musical instrument or aim to be better at socialising and public speaking.


There are a myriad of diverse ways in which you can obtain a sense or progression and self-worth in your life;  how you choose to achieve it is up to you.




This is the process of adding value through helping others.


Prime examples of this are being a teacher teaching or volunteering for a charity.


I feel this also plays an essential role towards our approach and feeling about our livelihood; as much as we want to do well for ourselves the most gracious and content people I have  ever come across give and contribute to others in abundance.


I cannot tell you the scientific or neurological reasons why giving adds fulfilment to our lives, however, from personal experience I can tell you that helping others gives you a different, deeper form of internal satisfaction; one that stems from a source of selflessness and gratitude, and not from self-interest.


If you think about it, would you want to look back on your life and realize that all you have done is take from the world when it has given so much to you?


So what are the ways we can contribute and give to the world?


My main source once again comes through InvincibleMentality; it is my way of sharing and contributing to the lives of others.


Receiving an email or Facebook message from someone saying thanks for helping them in gives me such a hear-warming feeling; one that is worth me continuing regardless of whether this blog loses or makes money.


Other forms of giving which I apply in my life include just being nice on a daily basis, like opening the door for someone or helping someone carry their luggage up the stairs; you can do so many little things on a daily basis which can all play a part in ticking your daily contribution box.


Another core form of contribution is through raising, supporting, and helping friends and family; contribution does not have to be building houses in third world countries… the source could be literally right in front of you.


Personally, I feel there needs to be a balance between self-worth and contribution.


Sure, giving is the most selfless thing one could do. That being said, if there is no element of personal growth in your life you may not feel complete; developing yourself gives you a sense of accomplishment and achievement.


The reason I stress the word ‘may’ in the above sentence is because it is not definite; someone can be completely satisfied with devoting themselves to give to the world without any care of the impact that it has on them. In fact, I am in awe of the people who have the mind-set where they can spend their life giving in the purest sense.


If you are one of these people, please email me at; I would love to speak to you and understand what your thought process and approach to life is!


For the rest of us, I feel a healthy balance between adding value to yourself and adding value to others is key to feeling good about yourself and your contribution to society.




This encompasses a number of elements which I fell have helped me approach life from a more beneficial angle.


For as long as I can remember I have always been ambitious; I wanted to be a tennis player back when I was 7, have my own businesses (back then my main goal was to out-compete Virgin…), strived to be great at piano, and always had a knack for wanting to develop and improve myself – in other words, my self-growth box was ticked.


It was not until fairly recently that I started to appreciate that I although I excelled in terms of achieving external success, I had a lot to work on in terms of my mentality; I was relatively insecure with how I looked and was held back by fears, self-limiting beliefs, and a naive and self-centred mind-set.




There is no harm in being thankful and grateful for everything you do have in life. In fact, when you do take a moment to be thankful for everything you do have you prevent getting lost in your negative thoughts.


Sure, you may not like your job, you know no one in this new city you have moved to, and your landlord is mugging you off… but are you homeless? No. You have a roof over your head, a job, and the ability to know that with time you will able to build connections and friendships.


Being relaxed and composed


Are you getting annoyed at unnecessary things?


An ability to stay relaxed helps keep a balanced, composed and rational mind-set which will help you focus on the things that matter in life.


Letting someone cutting you off or a train being cancelled affect your internal emotional state and your state towards others is not the way I would personally want to go out and live my life.


I don’t want to let myself develop a personality where I make heavy assumptions on a person/group of people due to getting a negative interpretation of them one time.


I don’t want to ever yell at my future wife or children because the events at work threw my emotions out of control.


I don’t want to live a life where I have an inability to focus on the truly important things in life because my emotions and thoughts were clouded with daily nonsense which really do not matter in the grand scheme of things.


Being in a calm and relaxed state helps avoid all the above.


This also goes hand in hand with gratitude and appreciation; when you have a relaxed mind-set you are able to be grateful for and appreciate the important moments in life. An ability to always look and appreciate the positivies of events helps you keep a more balanced and relaxed mindset.


I will not go into too much detail about the techniques, methods, and thought-processes I applied to help myself make great progress into becoming a more relaxed and serene version of myself, as I have already written a 2,000 article on how to be relaxed already -check it out!




I was not about to put this in here until I realised that being honest is one of the most fundamental aspects of allowing yourself to build the life you truly want.


If I did not allow myself to accept that I had some fears, insecurities, and was not the all-round beast I originally thought I was, I would never have made the steps to want to seek to re-evaluate my approach to life and re-structure it in a way which would be more beneficial to me.


Admitting to yourself that you have faults is not easy, but trust me when I say it is worth it; you give yourself the opportunity to work with yourself to become the person you want to be, both on the inside and outside.


Again, this links in with both being relaxed and appreciation; being honest with yourself is crucial to developing a clear mind-set which will allow you to see the position and state of yourself and the others around you. It also helps you appreciate the position you are in and the fact that you have the state of mind to want to improve yourself.




Once again, I cannot tell you how to live your life. However, the elements discussed in this article have personally helped me reach a mind-set and approach to life which has helped me feel more internally fulfilled.


That being said, ultimately it is up to you to decide what life you want to live; we all are unique individuals who have different boxes which we want to tick – find out what makes you internally fulfilled and work with yourself to create that life.


I hope this helps!




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Fear 101: How To Overcome Fear

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Fear is such a beautifully complex human mechanism which has a significant impact on our lives.


My aim is for us to understand fear to a point where  we can control how fear affects us and not the other way around.


This resource will dive deep down into helping us understand what fear is at the core, and guide us on what we can to overcome this powerful force.


Are you ready for this? This article is 2500 words long… we are going in.


What is fear?


You momentarily freeze.


You feel your heart beat.


Your palms get clammy.


A warm wave flows through your body.


You start to shake.


Your mind can’t think straight.


You become aware of every little action you are doing.


You feel frightened.


This is fear.


Fear is a feeling we get when we are uncertain of what lies ahead. More specifically, it is a feeling we get when we are uncertain of the negative consequences that may lie ahead:


Who are these people?


Will they like me?


What if they don’t like me?


What if they think I’m weird?


How will my speech turn out?


What if I mess up?


What if everyone judges me?


The uncertainty of what lies ahead takes us out of our comfort zone, which often encourages us to back out and avoid the scenario in order to not risk facing that negative event from potentially occurring and affecting us.


Take a moment to think about some of the times you have backed out of a scenario in fear that something negative may happen. It may be so insignificant such as declining to do a little speech back in middle school in fear of being laughed at, or something incredibly impactful like deciding not to move city or country in fear of having to create new connections and relationships.


Regardless of the decision made, fear is the threat of the negative implications that may be caused by that particular scenario.


An important point to note is that fear is the threat of an event potentially occurring; in a lot of instances, the negative scenario that we conjure up in our minds is unlikely to happen. That being said, we still often opt to avoid the event completely and miss out on all the positives that could be gained from it.


Why do we feel fear?


Fear can be frustrating when it stops you from doing you want to do, like wanting to deliver a speech at the conference you were invited to, or joining a club society where you do not know anyone.


Why are we getting this feeling when we know doing that action will most likely be beneficial?


In the most simplified and un-sciency way possible, fear is a stress stimulus unconsciously generated by the brain which prepares us to deal with a threatening scenario, also known as the fight-or-flight response.


This response helped us survive as a race many years ago and still plays a role in modern times by preventing us from getting into harm’s way.


The point to take away from this is that we have no control over the development of fear; whether in physically or emotionally threatening scenarios this fear response will be generated – there is very little we can do to prevent it from happening.


Before moving on to the steps we can use to actively work towards learning to overcome our fears, I want to quickly touch on something:


Why do you want to overcome fear?


The answer to this seems pretty obvious, but I want you to actively think about it:


Write down 5 reasons why you want to learn to overcome fear. Here are mine:


I want to be able to make friends effortlessly wherever I go.


I want to be able to confidently speak publicly in front of thousands of people.


I want to be able to try out new skills without caring whether I’ll be good at them or not.


I want to not be scared to go to an event just because I do not know what to expect.


I want to be able to think and act rationally.


Whether  jotted on a piece of paper or in the comments section, write it down. Doing so will help define why you want to overcome fear which will , in turn, provide the motivation to persevere with it.


Generally, learning to understand and control fear opens up opportunities; just like how a negative result may happen from a scenario, an incredible amount of positive opportunities may arise as well.


Take public speaking for example:


The negatives that could happen could be that you mess up your lines, you stutter, your forget what you have to say and/or people think you’re boring and disinteresting… now let us look at the positives:


You deliver an incredibly captivating speech.


You motivate and inspire people to go out and better themselves.


You impress acknowledged attendees who want to hire and work with you.


You end up meeting some incredible people at the event who you build long-term connections with.


So many good things can happen when we chose to not succumb to fear – this is why we want to learn how to not let it control us.


What can we do to overcome fear


Sure, we now have a fairly good understanding of the core characteristics of fear, but what can we actually do about it?


Embrace it


As mentioned earlier, fear is a subconscious response; we have very little control over when we get this feeling.


Therefore, trying to push fear down into a deep corner of your brain, locking it up, and throwing away the key will not likely work as it will always be a core part of you. If anything, doing so will likely lead to developing more internal complexities.


Instead, opening up and embracing your fears will help you be fully aware of your feelings and emotions; trying to hide fundamental parts of you from yourself only makes things worse in the long-term.


Get everything out in the open. Be fully aware when you feel fear and why you are feeling it, no matter how silly or shameful it may appear to be.


Personally, I find that writing or saying things out loud really helps me clarify and understand my emotions as you have to structure your thoughts – I suggest you do something similar; whether in writing or speech answer the following questions whenever you are feeling a form of fear:


What am I scared of?


Why am I scared of it?


What is the worst thing that could happen?


What is the best thing that could happen?


Let me bring this to context with the sort of dialogue I had with myself in the mirror the night before I was invited to speak at an event.


“Okay, I have this public speaking thing tomorrow. Wow. Okay, this is going to be scary because I have no idea what I am getting myself into. Knowing me I’m going to mess up a lot, I’m going to stutter, and definitely make a fool out of myself. But then again this is going to be an incredible experience for me; this will give me an amazing platform to get over this stupid fear and let me carry on progressing with my public speaking. If I don’t do it now when will I ever become amazing at influencing and connecting with others!?”


Doing something along these lines helps clarify exactly how you are feeling, why you are feeling the way you are, and your core purpose for wanting to embrace the fear but still persevere. Personally, I find this a lot better than trying to ridicule the fear out of me as it will still be there waiting to haunt me another day.


The break-it-down method


I am a huge advocate of taking things slowly and progressively. Diving into the deep end often leaves you completely overwhelmed and pushes you further away from your goal.


Wherever possible I suggest you try and take baby steps to tackle portions of the fear bit by bit.


Referring back to my public speaking event; I did not simply jump into it without any work beforehand –  I worked up towards it consistently and gradually:


When I reflected on why I was scared of public speaking I realized it came down to two things: the fear of messing up and the fear of being judged.


After I identified these two elements I made a conscious effort to slowly get out of my comfort zone a little whenever I had the opportunity, such as making a fairly strong opinioned comment when speaking to friends and letting them criticize it, or taking the opportunity to be more vocal during discussions with my family.


These sort of seemingly insignificant actions play an important role in helping you move in the right direction; as long as you are taking a step forward each day, no matter how small, you are making great progress towards your objective.


Fear is just interpretation


How can one person absolutely love roller coasters yet another completely hate them with a passion?


It is all about how we interpret and associate the feelings we get from these experiences; the physiological arousal generated is the same, however, the state of mind that  associate with this feeling determines whether we feel fear or excitment.


This resonated with me when it came to piano concerts:


The first few times performing I was pretty petrified; I would feel butterflies, my hands will sweat, my body will shake on the inside, and I would generally feel uneasy.


As the years went on I started to really enjoy the positives to performing; the feeling of accomplishment and entertaining felt incredible – I started to feel excited.


That being said, I still felt the same emotions as I used to before; I would still get butterflies and sweaty palms. However, as I started to associate these emotions with a positive feeling the fear faded away.


I still recognized that the concert will be frightening and there was a risk that I could mess up, however I simply did not let it get to me as I knew the positives were definitely worth that risk.


The transition from feeling fear to feeling excitements comes when you truly recognise that the potential positive outcomes are worth the potential negative outcomes that may occur.


Using the break-it-down method mentioned above really helps with this as you are putting yourself in only slightly uncomfortable situations where you know the negatives are not too severe; as a result of handling that situation and benefitting from and appreciating the positives you can slowly scale up and tackle more daunting tasks.


Skateboarders are a prime example of the break-it-down method: do you think the first time they hop on a skateboard they just fly off huge ramps straight away? No; they start off very small and slowly build up over time as they begin to be more confident at handling the feeling and appreciate how good it feels.


You can apply this to your life. Do not try and face your biggest fear immediately. Start off with a simplified scaled down component of the fear which you will only feel the tiniest bit of discomfort handling it, no matter how small it may be.


Once you get accustomed to the feeling, gradually up the ante and take on slightly more daunting tasks. Still keep it only slightly out of your comfort zone; you will naturally build up to your primary fear as you get more comfortable with being uncomfortable.


Expect The Worst


Note: this applies mainly to emotional fear, not physically dangerous fear.


This is a fairly unusual method which I find quite effective in scenarios where you are chucked in the deep end.


The premise is this: most of us know fears are irrational and the worst scenario probably will not happen.


That being said, what if it does happen? It is all we are going to be thinking about anyway, so instead of trying to hide away from it, we may as well prepare for it; a skydiver will always have an emergency chute just in case – we should too.


In a lot of social instances, the worst case scenario is revolved around people judging you and not liking you; insecurities likely play a perfectly normal part in this.


For my public speaking event, the worst case scenario was that I would freeze, forget my words, and have everyone thinking that I am an incompetent and useless human being.


I started to question myself over how bad that potential situation was; the worst case scenario was that 100 people that I’ve never met in my life and probably will not meet again will think I’m incompetent – is that the end of the world? No!


This realisation of  just how unsevere my perceived worst-case scenario was really helped me relax and perform better – when you feel you have nothing to lose you can just go for it.


Bear in mind that although I performed better I still blundered a lot; my zipper was undone for one of the speeches, I froze for 20 seconds, and  I did not know how to answer some of the questions asked… it was far from perfect, however as I prepared for the worth to happen I was a lot more comfortable in dealing with the situation.


Next time you are facing a social-based fear think to yourself: ‘what have I got to lose?’ If it is the loss of respect by other people does it really matter more than the amount you will gain from that opportunity? No is most often the answer.


Expecting the worst was what really helped me tackle that speaking event head on – I do not regret one second of it.




Fear is a feeling we get when we perceive a potentially dangerous situation may occur – it can be either physical or emotional.



Fear is a subconscious human mechanism; we have very little control of when we feel it.


That being said, we want to learn to overcome fear to let ourselves experience amazing opportunities and not get held back from negative events that will likely never happen.


We can do this by embracing the fear, breaking it down into manageable components, recognising the feeling is just an interpretation, and preparing and expecting the worst (once we realise it is not that bad).


I really hope this resource gave you some great insights into my personal journey with learning to overcome fear, which hopefully may shed some light on yours!


If you have any questions drop them down in the comments below.


Thanks for reading!




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3 Questions To Ask Yourself To Tackle Insecurities


Insecurities suck.


They make you needy, paranoid, self-conscious and fearful – this is not how we want to live life.


Let’s first define what an insecurity is from my perspective:


When your actions and thoughts are evolved around seeking approval from external sources.


At this point in time this for me sums up what an insecurity is; essentially when your fundamental thought process and emotional state is dependent on impressing others.


As a result of this we end up performing actions with the intention of pleasing others instead of ourselves.


There is nothing wrong with wanting to dress up nicely or to make someone like you, however, when you start to craft your life around it a fundamental problem arises; you are not living life for you.


I had this issue myself – I was heavily influenced by other people and had a need to always want to impress.


For example, my insecurities were one of the underlying reasons I was fixated on getting big, strong, and pursuing a corporate career; I thought it would impress others and achieve what was expected of me.


Admittedly these insecurities did give me a huge drive to want to make me successful. That being said, it did not contribute to happiness, which is far more important.


If you feel that you are often constantly thinking about what others think of you and/or constantly try to impress them you made be somewhat insecure – this is completely normal – even I am still a bit insecure! However, I  have come a long way mentally from where I used to be and have felt a lot happier and freer as a result.


So how did I stop being insecure?


First and foremost I was honest and aware of myself and made a conscious effort to not only embrace the idea that I could be insecure but to also actively work on it.


If you think you may be insecure and want to overcome it, take a step back at the end of each day and reflect on your thoughts and actions.


Below are the 3 questions which I have found have helped me out the most along with the reasoning as to how:


Am I doing what I am doing for me?


Think about the things you do any why. For example, are you going to the gym because you want to truly become the best version of yourself or are you doing it to look good to impress others around you? I used to be that guy who would do the same exercise as someone else, try and lift more, and hope they notice (sad I know…)


In a lot of instances the same action on the surface can have different underlying intentions; working hard to impress your boss is completely fine provided you are not dependent on his approval – it only becomes an issue when you feel incomplete without it.


Did I feel a need to over exaggerate and/or boast?


This is one of the most common traits which is the most evident, clear, but easiest to actively work on.


I am still prone to this; on paper I am fairly accomplished, and would always try to name drop bits and pieces of my achievements throughout daily conversations… Sure you should be proud of your achievements, but do you need to tell everyone about just how amazing you are in everyday scenarios?


Restricting yourself from unnecessary bragging is great to tackle the issue of wanting to impress everyone around you and helping you appreciate that you do what you do for you and not anyone else.


 (Also, bragging also often makes you come across as arrogant and cocky too – it would not be bad to cut back on it regardless!)


The good thing about this trait is that it is easy to identify and stop in its path; when you’re in a conversation with someone and they mention something which you could use to show yourself off, take a step back and think to yourself: ‘does this person really need to know my CV?‘ In most instances the answer is no; use it as an opportunity to overcome your need to impress.


Did I judge someone for something I wouldn’t do?


This is an interesting one; you may be thinking how judging someone may show signs of insecurities:


Often it shows that you want people to think and act the same way as you as you want to be sure that you will be accepted and embraced by other people.


This was ridiculously relevant to me; I used to get so annoyed when others would not agree or align with my thoughts and opinions and I didn’t know why. In hindsight, my inner need to seek approval from others explains a lot…


Work on understanding that everyone has had different exposures to each other; different things make us happy, sad, excited, fearful etc. – appreciate that everyone has their own thoughts and feelings and has no effect on you; no one needs to think, act, or be the same.


If someone does not agree with you then so be it; it does not mean you’re no less or more of a person.


Be open and acknowledge others thoughts, opinions and actions, but do not try to change yourself just to be in line with someone else if you don not fundamentally agree with it.


Closing Thoughts


The underlying theme here is to be independent: at the core you should be emotionally stable and complete.


Imagine your emotional state is a cup of water: if you are only able to fill it half way and need others to fill it up you will start to emotionally depend on them; this leads to you becoming needy of them which leads to developing insecurities as you want to impress them to ensure they stay in your life.


Instead, fill your own cup up to the top then let others overflow the cup; you are you and not anyone else.


Think and act independently to everyone else and be proud and secure of who you are.


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