Yes. You read that right.

 

I know it’s a bold statement, but I have my reasons for believing this, and let me tell you why…

 

They shun down dreams

 

Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends and family; they make my life happy and fill it with joy.

 

But… a lot of the times they inhibit your ability to turn dreams into targets, by (often unknowingly) making that dream appear to be unachievable.

 

Let me give you an example:

 

I was in my final year of secondary education, and I applied for university and got offers from some really renown institutions (LSE & Warwick being the main two). However, I also discovered a really promising opportunity to go straight into work and actually obtain the qualifications I needed to a year earlier than if I were to go to university. They only difference would be that I would not get a degree, but the qualification was worth way more than the degree, and when you got the qualification the degree had no extra value.

 

When I expressed my opinion to many friends and family members, I received so many single-minded and naive answers (no offence) – these were mainly based around the fact that it has been ingrained in so many of our minds that university is the only route to success, and if you get good grades you need to go to university.

 

Luckily for me, I have very strong self-believe, and I was able to overcome the negativity by arguing my point and actually changing the views of some who originally opposed the idea.

 

Deciding to not to university was a great choice for me, but it was a tough and ambitious decision to make.

 

Now I fully understand that my friends and family were trying to do what’s best for me – however unfortunately sometimes their opinion is not always the best.

 

When it comes to fitness it is just as bad.

 

A lot of the time when you finally decide to be ambitious and transform your life, the closest people in your life can still face you with adversity.

 

Again, this is likely unintentional, but it happens.

 

In quite a few occasions, it’s just that failure in fitness occurs so much, so as soon as an ambitious goal is mentioned it’s often faced with comments such as ‘yeah right’, or ‘good luck with that’.

 

They may not be downright negative comments, however, it just pushes that ambition a little bit further into that dream-world.

 

When I first wanted to follow a caveman diet back in school, it was hard as hell, because my mum didn’t believe in it and essentially refused to buy me the foods I needed. That paired with the subtle peer-pressure to go out and eat at McDonald’s and Subway etc. made the goal even harder.

 

So how do you overcome this?

 

The internet is your friend.

 

There are so many people out there with such similar ambitions to you, and who can help you out with your journey and help you head in the right direction.

 

I like to call these people ‘ambition friends’; peers who have similar targets and goals, and who will help you push you to make your dreams a reality.

 

Again, I have nothing against my friends or family… I’m probably coming across as an ungrateful bitch… all I’m saying is that sometimes the people closest to you may inadvertently shun your dreams down ever so subtly, and it may be wiser to find people with similar goals and ambitions to help you achieve them.

 

-Mike

 

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